Fun with Dynamis! :)

[Mog]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

I think I'm quitting Dynamis again ... I just can't seem to find a linkshell where I fit with the group, and apparently the fact that I believe our last hat getter to be a gimp (which he IS! god damn it, level your fucking subjob) is so fucking horrible. Well I'm tired of the fact that everyone else is okay with mediocrity in this game except me. I'm tired of everything.

Fuck it maybe I should just fucking quit the game.

Relax, everybody has a bad day with dynamis. J

Oh, yeah. Where are those pics!

[Aksannyi]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Based on the reprimand I got last night, I don't think it'd be a good idea. I bet people are about to start googling me and will find me here, as well. Might be best for me to lay low for a while, honestly.

And if it were just one bad day in Dynamis I'd probably brush it off, but it's been steadily getting worse with this group, just like it was with my last group. I know I have high standards and that makes me come off as bitchy, but am I really that unlikable? Is it too much to ask that when gather is at 10:30, people are there at 10:30? Is it too much to ask that people who do dynamis level their subjobs fully? Is it too much to ask that people think about the group and not themselves? (Example, RDMs who don't sleep because they don't want to die.)

I mean shit, I go to runs now and barely anyone talks to me. People have me on mute on vent, which unless you've been there, you have no idea how frustrating it is that you're trying to say something but someone who doesn't hear you will talk right over you. I can't find a social LS to save my life, and every time I offer to do stuff with people in the Dynamis or Sky LS no one ever offers to let me come, or to take my help. I'm like that kid who always wants to hang out with the cool kids, and tries so hard to fit in, but just doesn't. God damn it's grade school all over again.

I'm tired of it. I've been left out of shit before, in my last LS. And that's a huge part of why I left my old LS. That and everyone seemed to dislike me strongly even though, at most, I was "bitchy" because I spoke up if something seemed fucked up. Well someone should speak up if they see something wrong, and well, look what happens, you alienate the whole group. I'm tired of being treated like my opinions as a member mean nothing, that when I have an issue it's not important. I don't expect everyone to bend over and change things for me, but at least consider what I'm saying. Sometimes I may just have a valid point.

And then there's the fact that my boyfriend is in a LS most of them hate, and I get put on the shit list because sometimes I do stuff with them. Very rarely! Hell, hardly ever. I did sandworm once and I camped KV with CK two times simply because I was bored. But because I associate with them I'm the enemy? So stupid. I could write a book ...

I've been in this LS only a few months now, and I'm already thinking I should have just quit Dynamis permanently last time I quit. I don't want to quit the game, but at this point so many people think I'm this horrible bitch of the server that even if I tried to move I'm sure I'd get a horrid BC on BG, and it would come from people who thought I was a huge bitch because I didn't like being called nipples. (Yes, someone actually called me that and wondered why I didn't appreciate it.) But I'm the bitch here, huh.

Fuck me.

[Akashimo]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

You'll fit in with the social ls i'm in and our dyna shell! You almost sound like our leader with the rants o_o;

Seraph the home away from home.

Also, who cares about BG?

Fun in Dynamis Jeuno

Come on, why hasn't my goblin grease sold yet?!

[Mog]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Based on the reprimand I got last night, I don't think it'd be a good idea. I bet people are about to start googling me and will find me here, as well. Might be best for me to lay low for a while, honestly.

And if it were just one bad day in Dynamis I'd probably brush it off, but it's been steadily getting worse with this group, just like it was with my last group. I know I have high standards and that makes me come off as bitchy, but am I really that unlikable? Is it too much to ask that when gather is at 10:30, people are there at 10:30? Is it too much to ask that people who do dynamis level their subjobs fully? Is it too much to ask that people think about the group and not themselves? (Example, RDMs who don't sleep because they don't want to die.)

I mean shit, I go to runs now and barely anyone talks to me. People have me on mute on vent, which unless you've been there, you have no idea how frustrating it is that you're trying to say something but someone who doesn't hear you will talk right over you. I can't find a social LS to save my life, and every time I offer to do stuff with people in the Dynamis or Sky LS no one ever offers to let me come, or to take my help. I'm like that kid who always wants to hang out with the cool kids, and tries so hard to fit in, but just doesn't. God damn it's grade school all over again.

I'm tired of it. I've been left out of shit before, in my last LS. And that's a huge part of why I left my old LS. That and everyone seemed to dislike me strongly even though, at most, I was "bitchy" because I spoke up if something seemed fucked up. Well someone should speak up if they see something wrong, and well, look what happens, you alienate the whole group. I'm tired of being treated like my opinions as a member mean nothing, that when I have an issue it's not important. I don't expect everyone to bend over and change things for me, but at least consider what I'm saying. Sometimes I may just have a valid point.

And then there's the fact that my boyfriend is in a LS most of them hate, and I get put on the shit list because sometimes I do stuff with them. Very rarely! Hell, hardly ever. I did sandworm once and I camped KV with CK two times simply because I was bored. But because I associate with them I'm the enemy? So stupid. I could write a book ...

I've been in this LS only a few months now, and I'm already thinking I should have just quit Dynamis permanently last time I quit. I don't want to quit the game, but at this point so many people think I'm this horrible bitch of the server that even if I tried to move I'm sure I'd get a horrid BC on BG, and it would come from people who thought I was a huge bitch because I didn't like being called nipples. (Yes, someone actually called me that and wondered why I didn't appreciate it.) But I'm the bitch here, huh.

Fuck me.

I would be pretty pissed off too if people don't show up at gather time and don't have proper subjobs for dynamis. But sorry you're getting called out as bitchy. I would probably be called the same if I started calling out the guy who shows up to dynamis as 75 blm / 30 whm.

If you ever decide to switch to Seraph, you're welcome to join my shell. The majority of members in it are in an HNMls and it's pretty damn good. You won't find anyone who doesn't know how to play his job and doesn't have subjobs leveled. Except for that occasional guy who gets in and doesn't do anything...

Good luck, in either case.

[Raydeus]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Hey Aka you should send me RDM feet and legs and full PLD relic while you are at it. <_<;

[Akashimo]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Hey Aka you should send me RDM feet and legs and full PLD relic while you are at it. <_<;

Move to seraph and we'll talk about it.

[TheGrandMom]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Based on the reprimand I got last night, I don't think it'd be a good idea. I bet people are about to start googling me and will find me here, as well. Might be best for me to lay low for a while, honestly.

And if it were just one bad day in Dynamis I'd probably brush it off, but it's been steadily getting worse with this group, just like it was with my last group. I know I have high standards and that makes me come off as bitchy, but am I really that unlikable? Is it too much to ask that when gather is at 10:30, people are there at 10:30? Is it too much to ask that people who do dynamis level their subjobs fully? Is it too much to ask that people think about the group and not themselves? (Example, RDMs who don't sleep because they don't want to die.)

I mean shit, I go to runs now and barely anyone talks to me. People have me on mute on vent, which unless you've been there, you have no idea how frustrating it is that you're trying to say something but someone who doesn't hear you will talk right over you. I can't find a social LS to save my life, and every time I offer to do stuff with people in the Dynamis or Sky LS no one ever offers to let me come, or to take my help. I'm like that kid who always wants to hang out with the cool kids, and tries so hard to fit in, but just doesn't. God damn it's grade school all over again.

I'm tired of it. I've been left out of shit before, in my last LS. And that's a huge part of why I left my old LS. That and everyone seemed to dislike me strongly even though, at most, I was "bitchy" because I spoke up if something seemed fucked up. Well someone should speak up if they see something wrong, and well, look what happens, you alienate the whole group. I'm tired of being treated like my opinions as a member mean nothing, that when I have an issue it's not important. I don't expect everyone to bend over and change things for me, but at least consider what I'm saying. Sometimes I may just have a valid point.

And then there's the fact that my boyfriend is in a LS most of them hate, and I get put on the shit list because sometimes I do stuff with them. Very rarely! Hell, hardly ever. I did sandworm once and I camped KV with CK two times simply because I was bored. But because I associate with them I'm the enemy? So stupid. I could write a book ...

I've been in this LS only a few months now, and I'm already thinking I should have just quit Dynamis permanently last time I quit. I don't want to quit the game, but at this point so many people think I'm this horrible bitch of the server that even if I tried to move I'm sure I'd get a horrid BC on BG, and it would come from people who thought I was a huge bitch because I didn't like being called nipples. (Yes, someone actually called me that and wondered why I didn't appreciate it.) But I'm the bitch here, huh.

Fuck me.

(Oh god don't do it......do not type that!! You know what's going to happen if you do...../slap....don't do it!!)

/sigh

Gonna do it....

Aks, it happens to a lot of gaming women. You have women that play and act all sweetsie and cute and then you have women who play real. You play real just like me and it gets you labeled as a bitch. You have the same attitude as our male counterparts but since you are a woman, its frowned upon. Test it out once. Get into another ls and start giggling on vent, acting like an airhead, talk about cutesie stuff in ls, etc. Everyone's demeanor towards you does a 180. Through the years I've tested this in many online games and if you act the way they expect a girl to act, you're golden. You act like one of the guys, they don't much care for it. For me, add a heaping helping of age to it and I get all kinds of attitude. Two things you can do, grit your teeth and put up with it or put on the pink dress and learn to giggle.

[711rocks]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

I would be pretty pissed off too if people don't show up at gather time and don't have proper subjobs for dynamis. But sorry you're getting called out as bitchy. I would probably be called the same if I started calling out the guy who shows up to dynamis as 75 blm / 30 whm.

If you ever decide to switch to Seraph, you're welcome to join my shell. The majority of members in it are in an HNMls and it's pretty damn good. You won't find anyone who doesn't know how to play his job and doesn't have subjobs leveled. Except for that occasional guy who gets in and doesn't do anything...

Good luck, in either case.

true story
the event starts at 9 pm?
be there at 8:45 ffs
every event we do/did we were always a consistent 30+ minutes late


also
get a fucking buffer people
you want to throw down random epic ancient magic without any regard for your hate? fine the monster is gonna rock you
maybe not, I can accomplice/collab, but wait! you ran away across the dynamis zone! too bad that ability is like a 2 yalm radius
/blm delevel
whats that!? you subbed rdm because it has another magic attack bonus? you didnt buy reraise because you spent all your gil leveling your 42 goldsmith? (That's too bad.)
we dont have the time/mp to give you a RIII whenever you want, bring your own or get a buffer
or just not be stupid with hate
a huge link you slept that beat the shit out of you is fine; epeen shots you cant handle the aftermath of are not
this goes for all jobs/people who show up for events with 4000/44000
if you had to work or take care of kids etc irl thats cool you just didnt have time
if you spent the day in garlaige leveling your 50 sch instead of doing campaign or farming for your stupid RR i'm not as caring

[Raydeus]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

(Oh god don't do it......do not type that!! You know what's going to happen if you do...../slap....don't do it!!)

/sigh

Gonna do it....

Aks, it happens to a lot of gaming women. You have women that play and act all sweetsie and cute and then you have women who play real. You play real just like me and it gets you labeled as a bitch. You have the same attitude as our male counterparts but since you are a woman, its frowned upon. Test it out once. Get into another ls and start giggling on vent, acting like an airhead, talk about cutesie stuff in ls, etc. Everyone's demeanor towards you does a 180. Through the years I've tested this in many online games and if you act the way they expect a girl to act, you're golden. You act like one of the guys, they don't much care for it. For me, add a heaping helping of age to it and I get all kinds of attitude. Two things you can do, grit your teeth and put up with it or put on the pink dress and learn to giggle.

/

It isn't only in gaming, but indeed: It's an "if you act like a guy I will treat you like a guy, if you act like a woman I'll treat you like a woman (regardless of your actual gender)" kinda thing. And it's not that it's frowned upon, but more like since you are considered one of the guys many of us simply wont allow you to do anything we wouldn't allow to other guys. Which means mood swings, and other gender specific related issues simply won't get much sympathy in that situation.

In my case if you say something that really annoys me I don't care if you are men, women or other; I'll send you visit Promathia faster than you can say lolSexism.



PS > I still find it very hard to see women -who act like guys- as actual women, so I just end up lumping them together with the rest of the guys. It's probably is because I've always considered man and women to be equal, so the way I see it just because a woman is as strong and independant as a man that doesn't mean they have to act like one.

I guess that's a big part of why I like anime characters so much. There you see strong women -usually stronger and more reliable than the male protagonist- who don't throw away their femininity because of that, and most of the times they end up being more feminine than submissive women (which would normally be seen as a paradox in western culture, since we don't have any cultural equivalent to that here.)


Disclaimer:
I think it's too complicated of a topic for me to explain my point of view while trying to get work done (and this post is probably going to end up being missunderstood with me being labelled as a sexist in the process ), but I had to reply something.

[TheGrandMom]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

true story
the event starts at 9 pm?
be there at 8:45 ffs
every event we do/did we were always a consistent 30+ minutes late


also
get a fucking buffer people
you want to throw down random epic ancient magic without any regard for your hate? fine the monster is gonna rock you
maybe not, I can accomplice/collab, but wait! you ran away across the dynamis zone! too bad that ability is like a 2 yalm radius
/blm delevel
whats that!? you subbed rdm because it has another magic attack bonus? you didnt buy reraise because you spent all your gil leveling your 42 goldsmith? (That's too bad.)
we dont have the time/mp to give you a RIII whenever you want, bring your own or get a buffer
or just not be stupid with hate
a huge link you slept that beat the shit out of you is fine; epeen shots you cant handle the aftermath of are not
this goes for all jobs/people who show up for events with 4000/44000
if you had to work or take care of kids etc irl thats cool you just didnt have time
if you spent the day in garlaige leveling your 50 sch instead of doing campaign or farming for your stupid RR i'm not as caring

Ya I think every average to large ls has this issue. I for one would absolutely LOVE to see an ls that has enough people to start at the time its supposed to start. Most ls's wait because they need some key job(s) and thats the aggravating part. I'm no angel. I have grandkids that come first and I've logged on late plenty of times but if the event has started...OH WELL! I don't get pissed, I don't yammer in /t's to people, I don't start drama in the ls, I just go about my business and do something else either in game or irl. Thems the breaks.

And the raising issue........omfg......as a whm in Dynamis.....I am SO F**KING SICK of the /ts from people begging for an R3. Suck it up and take the Rwhatever and go out and get some exp! My schedule is TIGHT with trying to do ls events, farm, and have a buffer but I do it. With all the shit going on in my life and I can do it, then others can do it too.

[Raydeus]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

Move to seraph and we'll talk about it.

Can't you just send it to my (Delivery Box)? I don't want to spend money on server transfers ever again.

[Aksannyi]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

I can't afford to spend money on server transfers

Fixed for my personal truth.

[Akashimo]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

We could do a forum fund raiser for the, "Make Aksannyi happy by buying her a Server Jump and get a good ls on Seraph."

[Aksannyi]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

<emo>

I don't know, I can't help but think it's something I'm doing wrong, because of how many linkshells I've been in where I just wasn't wanted after a while; how many times I've been in this predicament wondering why it is that people don't like me. What is it that I do to make people dislike me so much ... I don't think it's 100s of people who are all retarded if the common denominator is me in all this, and I wonder if I'd just end up in the same place in another ls, since this seems to be the pattern I keep falling into.

I must be really unlikable, hell it was like this in the Army too, I was ostracized because I wouldn't settle for minimum, I strove to be the best and while I sometimes failed (at being the best) I never stopped caring about making myself the best I could and trying to get others to keep a standard of excellence themselves, yet they saw it as me being a bitch, in school it was the same, no matter what I've done in life I've put people off and ended up with less friends than enemies ...

So then if the problem is just me then changing lses is not going to do me any good, nor is changing servers I'll just be miserable on another server ...

I guess I'm just one of those people who is socially inept. It doesn't help that I suffer from severe depression but of course, no insurance = no treatment, it's a wonder I haven't /wrists yet in my 27 years on this planet, those two babies are probably the only reason I'm still alive, no joke. And yet when I get into these group situations all I want is to be liked or at least accepted but instead I spiral further down into this "woe is me, no one likes me" tunnel because that's how it appears, further perpetuates the depression the more it continues.

I shouldn't probably post this shit here, I need to get these thoughts out. I know I need help, I wish I could get it, I'm so broke I can't even drive myself to a clinic (I've run out of gas 3 times this month and CK has bailed me out all three times), let alone try to get treatment with my negative bank balances and overdrawn credit cards. Hell it's a wonder I still play this game, but at times it seems like all I have because truthfully, I don't do anything else anymore. I'd probably crochet if my stuff was here, but it's in PA, along with other stuff I like to do, so I play the game out of boredom but end up being more bored in the game, I should take a break but then I'd be so bored I'd probably go even more insane.

Fuck me I'm in over my head, I need help. Monday when I go to school I'm getting counseling, with the hope of someday knowing what it is that makes people dislike me so much; what it is about me as a person that turns people off from wanting to associate with me ... because it must be me after all this has gone down, it just ... must be me.

</emo> (well not really ... -_-)

[Mog]

Re: Fun with Dynamis!

<emo>

I don't know, I can't help but think it's something I'm doing wrong, because of how many linkshells I've been in where I just wasn't wanted after a while; how many times I've been in this predicament wondering why it is that people don't like me. What is it that I do to make people dislike me so much ... I don't think it's 100s of people who are all retarded if the common denominator is me in all this, and I wonder if I'd just end up in the same place in another ls, since this seems to be the pattern I keep falling into.

I must be really unlikable, hell it was like this in the Army too, I was ostracized because I wouldn't settle for minimum, I strove to be the best and while I sometimes failed (at being the best) I never stopped caring about making myself the best I could and trying to get others to keep a standard of excellence themselves, yet they saw it as me being a bitch, in school it was the same, no matter what I've done in life I've put people off and ended up with less friends than enemies ...

So then if the problem is just me then changing lses is not going to do me any good, nor is changing servers I'll just be miserable on another server ...

I guess I'm just one of those people who is socially inept. It doesn't help that I suffer from severe depression but of course, no insurance = no treatment, it's a wonder I haven't /wrists yet in my 27 years on this planet, those two babies are probably the only reason I'm still alive, no joke. And yet when I get into these group situations all I want is to be liked or at least accepted but instead I spiral further down into this "woe is me, no one likes me" tunnel because that's how it appears, further perpetuates the depression the more it continues.

I shouldn't probably post this shit here, I need to get these thoughts out. I know I need help, I wish I could get it, I'm so broke I can't even drive myself to a clinic (I've run out of gas 3 times this month and CK has bailed me out all three times), let alone try to get treatment with my negative bank balances and overdrawn credit cards. Hell it's a wonder I still play this game, but at times it seems like all I have because truthfully, I don't do anything else anymore. I'd probably crochet if my stuff was here, but it's in PA, along with other stuff I like to do, so I play the game out of boredom but end up being more bored in the game, I should take a break but then I'd be so bored I'd probably go even more insane.

Fuck me I'm in over my head, I need help. Monday when I go to school I'm getting counseling, with the hope of someday knowing what it is that makes people dislike me so much; what it is about me as a person that turns people off from wanting to associate with me ... because it must be me after all this has gone down, it just ... must be me.

</emo> (well not really ... -_-)

Sounds like you just need a break from Final Fantasy. If playing this game is more than a chore and only aggrevates you, it's not healthy. I've had times where playing this game was more than a chore than fun. But every once in awhile, I feel the need to take a break, so I do.