Mother's Day

[DrakenDame]

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Just to clarify: Mother's Day in UK is different from say Europe. In UK it was indeed in March and "ours" is this coming Sunday. My mom never wants anything big, but she loves plants and flowers. This year she is getting a voucher for a big garden centre, so she can pick plants and flowers herself, she loves doing that and besides, me and my sister never know if we get the right ones...

Furthermore, I'm thinking of getting her a book as well, since she loves reading...Maybe the Twilight quadrilogy or something...

[Durahansolo]

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What he doesn't like to see me in is my TOS Star Trek shirt I got 35 years ago and can still fit in it! (Thats quite a feat!) Especially when I wear it (the black pants tucked into the black boots too) when he takes me to see the new Star Trek movie. LOLOLOLOLOL

Star Trek diserves its own thread lol. I bought a Star Trek t-shirt from Steve and Barry's before they went out of business. I gotta remember to put it on tomorrow morning when I head to the IMAX.

[dirtyclown]

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My mom hasn't contacted me in 4 years. I usually celebrate by drinking beer.

[Mog]

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My mom hasn't contacted me in 4 years. I usually celebrate by drinking beer.

That's a shame.

[Feba]

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That's a shame.

Look at who you're quoting. It's not only completely understandable, it explains a lot.

[TheGrandMom]

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My mom hasn't contacted me in 4 years. I usually celebrate by drinking beer.

Well I don't know your history with your mother but I can say that life is too short to live with anger and regret. Also that phone calls both ways.

[Durahansolo]

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Also that phone calls both ways.

Oooooo That phrase brings back memories. I once said that to my ex girlfriend when she asked why I didn't call her anymore.

GET OUT OF MY HEAD!!!! *Starts having withdrawals*

[dirtyclown]

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Well I don't know your history with your mother but I can say that life is too short to live with anger and regret. Also that phone calls both ways.

Indeed it does, but when the number changes every 3 months it's difficult to even establish contact. At least this way I don't have to call her and act like I care.

[Queen Uma]

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Have you maybe tried sending her a message written with burning kittens?

Ah nothing bonds a family like a cat on fire....

[Durahansolo]

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Have you maybe tried sending her a message written with burning kittens?

Ah nothing bonds a family like a cat on fire....

[Telera]

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I really have a strong dislike for arbitrary holidays that guilt you into thinking you have to do something on that specific day, or you are a bad spouse (Valentines) or child (Mother's/Father's Day).

I love my mother, and I like to show it on random days. I'll take her to lunch, or buy her something I see I think she might like. Books she wants but really doesn't have the extra cash for, I buy and slip to her. I see no damn reason why I have to then go and do more on some random specific day that someone somewhere at some point in time deemed 'Mother's Day'. And then you get all these mothers that buy into it and cry and emo at their kids if they don't pony up on said specific day. It makes me sick, to be quite honest. If the kid never shows you any appreciation, it makes sense, but if they don't hold to specific random holidays and are thoughtful all year long, I'm failing to see the issue. I fucking hate V-Day and Mother's Day and Father's Day for this reason. Hell, I'm starting to hate Christmas for it. If I ever was to (for some odd reason) become a Jehovah's Witness, 'letting go' of holidays would not be hard for me. I mostly ignore them already. I have no attachment to them, and find them shallow and arbitrary at best anymore.

My mom's one of those types that doesn't want stuff anyway. And she actually means that when she says it. She doesn't want us to spend money on her, as she has enough clothes (so she says) and more junk than she needs, and owns every damn Dark Hunter novel there is, so there's nothing left for me to buy her there. :p

[TheGrandMom]

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The point of those holidays is just remembering someone and letting them know that they are special to you. (Not so much for Christmas as that has religious significance.) I don't expect gifts but they buy them anyways. My big thing is homeade stuff and they know it. I LOVE homeade cards and still have stacks of them from my kids through the years. Now I'm adding grandkids cards to those stacks! My daughter often draws me pictures which I then frame. In fact this year for Valentine's Day (which is my anniversary), she drew me a beautiful bunch of flowers and then put it in a snazzy black frame with a glass mat (kind of hard to explain) that she got for $1 from her work.

But if all I got was a call/hug with an I love you and Happy Mothers Day, I'd be a happy camper. Remember its not what YOU think of the holiday that matters, its what the person (mother for mother's day, father for father's day, etc) thats on the receiving end thinks. Sometimes you just have to buck up and do what makes them happy. (I do not condone going beyond your means to make someone smile. Like I said a simple phone call or a hug and telling them you love them should be enough.)

[Durahansolo]

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About 10:30 last night I went upstairs and asked my mom if she wanted her gift then or if she wanted to wait til tomorrow because I had a feeling that I was going to go to sleep in my chair before 12:00. My brother lives in DC and he mailed her his gift and she opened it yesterday. She replied to me that "I told your brother earlier that 'tomorrow is promised to no man.' I WANT MY GIFT NOW!" I lol'd so hard at how she said it. My mom is like you TGM she'd be happy with whatever she got.

[Telera]

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Quotes are still broke for me TGM, so I'm just gonna have to roll with it.

But really, that's the core of the issue. People have come to expect other people to do things on certain days, and not when they're actually motivated by their heart/feelings to do them, to the point that they hold them accountable for not doing it on that day. That's pathetic, imo. I'd much rather have my boyfriend stick a little note and some chocolates or a flower in my purse on some random day, than sit around on Feb. 14th waiting on him to do it because he's afraid I'll get upset if he doesn't. In fact, I don't want anything on a holiday cuz it will always feel forced to me.

I'd rather buy my mother things when every other mother in the US isn't also getting them, to show her I really was thinking of her, and not pressured by the subliminal nonsense everywhere. Thankfully, my mother isn't one of the sheep types that attaches anything to holidays and gets all emotionally invested to the point of disappointment. (And as an aside: I don't attach anything religious to Christmas at all, since it's a bunch of borrowed Pagan nonsense on a day that isn't even close to accurate for the birth of Christ. I've felt that way for years, and only barely celebrate it because my Dad is still into it. My mother no longer cares either, and most of my siblings are the same. Once they divorce, I doubt any of us will celebrate it at all.)

True appreciation isn't motivated by Hallmark man-made bullshit holidays, and if someone gets upset because no one bought them something on one specific day, I really can't respect that. It isn't my fault people buy into the garbage. And just because they do doesn't mean they should expect those close to them to follow suit. It's an odd example, but if your children were JW's, they don't do Mother and Father's day, or anything else. So if they're buying you things on other random days of the year because they were thinking of you then instead of in May, and you get upset, sorry, but you've got no room to talk at all. Doesn't matter what day the thought is extended, it's the thought at all that matters.

A close friend of mine is one, and she doesn't buy me gifts on silly holidays and birthdays, but trust me, I know she loves me and appreciates me much more than those that only show up with them when they feel they have to, as constrained by the 'rules' of polite society.

[TheGrandMom]

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So if you had a mother that did like to get a hug and a "Happy Mother's Day, I love you.", you wouldn't bother to do it because it violates your principles of what YOU think about these type of holidays? Do you see how selfish that is? Thats what I'm saying. If you don't believe in buying gifts don't. If you don't believe in buying cards don't. But a phone call or going over and saying a few words to make someone happy isn't costing you anything more than your pride and if you can't part with that, well......