Divorce and cheating douchbags/whores

[Malacite]

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Do affairs play any role in this? giving half my junk away to a cheating wife is adding insult to injury.

Maybe, maybe not. This is subjective as to why the spouse was cheating, and often it's because they're feeling neglected in some manner.

[Ufgt]

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Key take away from all of this: Don't get married. And don't rely on other people, cuz they usually suck.

[TheGrandMom]

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Do affairs play any role in this? giving half my junk away to a cheating wife is adding insult to injury.

Usually no. They did away with that. But if you have a pre-nup or if the cheating had some type of legal fallout (i.e. going to meet with her lover and leaving young children home alone unsupervised) then you might have the upper hand.

Remember cheating is a wake up call that something is wrong with the relationship. It takes two to make a relationship work so when someone cheats there is more to it than she/he is a whore/douchebag.

[Satori]

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I've been with my partner now for 5-6 years now, About 2 years before meeting me he was married with a daughter. When he left his wife he left his daughter, Home, car the furniature just so his dughter didn't have to go without. the house alone was worth 250k. The understanding was he didn't want anything apart from access to his daughter on weekends and in the event of selling the house he would get 10k to help set himself up.
Well it turned out 3 weeks after he left her she moved another guy in and was pregnant.
When he met me he explainded what she was like and sure enough no more than 4 weeks into seeing him I got a visit from social services grilling me on my income, size of my home, what I did for a living.
Because here in the uk she can claim a percentage of my wages just for being with the childs father.
The first year together. We got together in sept and he'd seen her 3-4 times at most then contact stopped. All by her doing not his. she would get in touch to give updates on the house being sold and that was it.finally the week before xmas and we had a call out of the blue that the house was finally being sold but she needed his signature and if he did this then he could have his daughter for the afternoon. So the day before xmas eve came and he went to pick her up he was told he had to take her to his mothers (30 min drive there and back) and he had 2 hours in which to do so.
After that day he hasnt seen her since and not through being a deadbeat dad or anything he regularly pays the CSA (Child support agency) because it's taken from his salary before he can even touch it.
We've heard through the grapevine she's had 2 more kids sine.
I believe if a woman moves onto another guy and gets a load shot up them and it takes hold and creates life then it's the responsibility of the new guy to take care of all that live under the roof including children that aren't theirs.
I'm not saying my partner shouldnt pay but he's not head of the houseand he has no access to his daughter in the first place. I cant even say there's reasons why because he's not violent, doesnt drink (drank about 2 vodka and redbull in the whole of last year lol) or do drugs the plain fact of the matter is a great number of women are bitches and are not that far from prostitutes when they use money that is "compensation" from being filled with Jizz.
I wish I could lie on my back and take god knows how much dick and end up with a house. Because I work 3 jobs and still like in a flat which is like a shoebox with some inside walls and a few windows.
I'm just glad my mum is decent. My siblings and I may have different dad's but once they left my mum never has accepted a penny off any of them. she prefers to tell them go * yourself or stick it up ya a$$.
Also when I went on holiday last year my british pounds convered into euro's ver badly I felt robbed
How can we bring the power and value of the pu$$y to the floor?
well that's just my experience of money grabbing hoes and yes beforeanybody acts up. Not all women are like this I know.

[Aksannyi]

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Oh wow, I was gone for a few days and this thread blew up and apparently got split from the main topic. O.o

@TGM, I said what I said about women because all of these women I speak of are 100% capable of working but refuse to. No, they take the fucking easy handout. 75% of them do not have kids/kids have moved out. None of the men I know have kept their houses. A friend of mine is in the process of a divorce and his house is up for grabs right now - his house, the house that's been in his family for nearly a century, the house that he bought from his parents (but was practically given to him) - yes, this woman has no fucking claim to it. Their kids are over 18, so there's no reason for her to live there anymore. Even worse, is he got her to move out about six months ago and she's still fighting to move back in and push him out.

And the fucking kicker, she claims she can't support herself, she needs all this money blahblahblahblahblah, but find a job? Wut? I will have a house. And you know how? I'll fucking work for it. And last I heard, if she doesn't get the house, she wants him to basically buy her a different house.

Is something wrong with living in an apartment? Is it so terrible? I grew up in a house and lived there until I was 18, I moved back in a few times after that and moved out for good at 26 (yes lol I know, this was during the divorce though), and guess what? I live in an apartment, I hate a lot of things about it, but at least I have a goddamn sense of pride for working for what I have. I mean granted this woman does not want to split with her husband (my friend) because she's been manipulating him for twenty years and now that he's finally stepped back and realized it, she realizes she doesn't have a butt-monkey anymore. Part of it I'm sure was that he cared for her and didn't want to hurt her, but at some point you realize that's just not gonna cut it anymore, when you get shit on repeatedly and treated like a dog. I'm so glad he's getting out of that shit, granted, he is not perfect, but I think it's 100% fucked up that she thinks she deserves this house, this house that has been his family's for so many years and this house that she turned into a dump by smoking in it for 20 years and letting the dogs piss on the carpets. (And yes, my friend is spending a lot of money to fix it back up, he got the smoke smell out of it and he ripped up all the carpets, it's much better with her gone.)

Not only this, she spent tons of his money gambling at the damn casino. She spent money like she was a pop star. When my friend told me all the crap she bought that was totally useless (a lot of it that he tried to sell when I had the yard sale at his house) I damn near shit a brick. Please tell me how you can not work for 20 years, spend money on a ton of useless/frivolous crap, and still expect a hand out? She's been getting a handout for 20 years. Or at least 12, because let's say that's about the time when your kids are self-sufficient enough that it becomes possible to work. Yes, cooking and cleaning is work and it is a challenge, helping the kids with homework and driving them around and being a mother, I realize that, but even with all that you can take on a part-time job. My mother did it, countless other moms do it. And with all this, struggling for them to make ends meet over the years while she's spending money like bills are just for fun. Not to say that my friend is not partially to blame for enabling her, but goddamn. We do crazy things when we care about/love someone. I don't know if he loves her, I never did ask, but I'm assuming he did at one point.

This is the kind of shit I'm talking about. Neither of them were unfaithful, and surely I do not have the full story at all, but I just don't understand how this woman thinks that she can loaf around all the time and get a fat paycheck. Once your kids are past a certain age, there's no reason you can't work, even part-time.

And yes, this is a typical experience from what I've seen in divorces. I do not fucking understand it. I get that you get comfortable living somewhere for a long time, but you know what? Split off, get a fresh start, work for yourself (this is of course referring to people who are able) and you'll start to feel like you didn't need that man to hold you up. I promise you it feels pretty good.

Key take away from all of this: Don't get married.

And this.

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Because here in the uk she can claim a percentage of my wages just for being with the childs father.

Also, this is a stupidly broken system.

[Kailea]

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wow and my friends wonder why I am afraid to get a girlfriend let alone get married......

[Balfree]

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Being gay has its advantages.

Right now its being straight thats being put on the spot, ohohoh!

Damn breeders who can't even breed properly.

[Raydeus]

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What exactly is the difference between gay and straight unions? The moment gay marriage is legalized and regulated the exact same thing happens/will happen when they divorce, that includes children custody drama.

[Ufgt]

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The system is so beyond broken right now. I'd rather just not get married and live with my girl friend obligation free. If the only thing keeping me with her is a legal obligation or the fear of legal repurcussions, than that relationship was never meant to be in the first place. If I do something for her, it's because I want to, not because I'm obligated to.

Bitches be trippin'.

[Raydeus]

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Wasn't there some sort of law about that?

Something on the lines that living with a woman for X amount of time would automatically give them wife rights or something.




No wait, or was that here in Mexico? Ok I'm confused now, but I'm pretty sure there's a law about that somewhere.

[Armando]

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Remember cheating is a wake up call that something is wrong with the relationship. It takes two to make a relationship work so when someone cheats there is more to it than she/he is a whore/douchebag.

While it's true that it's almost never so black and white, I still don't consider this sort of thing acceptable in general. If everything's gone downhill, make it work. If your husband doesn't want to make it work, divorce him, THEN have sex with whomever you want. (This isn't directed at you TGM, I just wanted to throw in my 2 cents.)

I'd like to take this opportunity to ask under what circumstances such a divorce wouldn't be possible (relationship's gone to hell, wife wants out.)

[Aksannyi]

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He could cockblock the legal process, refuse to sign papers, continue to force mediation in some states - here in Florida, if a spouse wants counseling before a divorce, they are entitled to drag their spouse along with them for x amount of sessions and basically stalemate the process. (Sessions finish, counselor gives recommendations, act like you're going along with the proceedings, request counseling again, etc.)

I don't know how else it can be done, I also don't know if there's a way to force yourself out of a relationship without both parties signing the papers to end it. That's something I don't have experience with.

[Ufgt]

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Wasn't there some sort of law about that?

Something on the lines that living with a woman for X amount of time would automatically give them wife rights or something.




No wait, or was that here in Mexico? Ok I'm confused now, but I'm pretty sure there's a law about that somewhere.

Yes, it is called 'Common Law", but not all states and provinces have it.

[Neverslip]

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Maybe, maybe not. This is subjective as to why the spouse was cheating, and often it's because they're feeling neglected in some manner.

Very very very true....

Being gay has its advantages.

The moment gay marriage is legalized and regulated the exact same thing happens/will happen when they divorce, that includes children custody drama.

It's already happened. Several of the high profile union/marriages that made the news when it first started happening have recently ended in divorce. Very nasty nasty divorces, I understand. So, to all homosexuals I say: Welcome.

No one can hurt you more than those closest to you. Yet the happiness that can be found by being intimate (not merely in the physical sense) to another human being can hardly imitated by other means. It's an absolute conundrum for many. Now marriage and unions don't really mean diddley-sh!t when it comes to happiness... symbolism, yes... happiness, maybe. I haven't decided yet whether marriage is even in the cards for my current relationship... she's the girl I've been waiting for, I think, but she's also a very recent divorcee(sp?) and I'm really uncertain if she will want to follow that path again.

Lifes interesting... that's for sure.

[Aksannyi]

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I've decided that I'm not going to get married again. At this point, though, I'm not sure I even want to bother with involving myself with other human beings anymore. All they do is let me down. I'm gonna get a fucking dog and live by myself forever.

And yes, this just came off the message that someone has arbitrarily decided to stop being my friend, which is not really relevant to the thread, just my previous paragraph. I fucking give up. Seriously.