First of all, welcome back
1. Questing differs from missions as they are spread out through all the world, talk to every npc you come across and you will never miss a quest. Some quests become avaliable once you clear a pre-requesite quests, others require a certain level of fame. How do you get fame.. by doing quests! some quests are repeatable, for example a npc who needs feed for his sheep in selbina, each time you give him the item he wants, you will get a small bit of fame, theres also non-repeatable quests that may award you with Gil and/or items, maps, and fame, so just go npc hunting out there and talk to them

what you can also do is find quests online and do them, go here for a extensive list of quests that FFXI has:
http://ffxi.somepage.com/questdb/ .
2. Con system is based on your level and stats, and some say your gear matters too, im not sure, however some Toughs might be easier to kill than some Easy Prey, why? because while a Tough might be conned that way, that only means he is higher level than you, depending on what types of attack it has, skills it uses and attack/defense rate, it might be easy to kill or it might not. In time you will learn what monsters you should avoid no matter what it Cons, obviously on higher levels this wont matter much.
Anyone who can provide more info, go ahead... im installing Tau and too excited to think straight :p
3. Yes. Its semi-rare to see equipment drop, atleast from more regular enemies, usually some Beastmen drop gear, but dont count on that to cover your feet, you will rely on the auction house to get your gear, and if youre the adventurous monster hunter type, you might find yourself hunting for a particular special monster to drop you a nice piece to wear, or to sell. Also BCNM (instanced fights) is where you get alot of gear and valuables to sell.
4. Yes o YES there is. Ingame you can talk to guild npcs, and they will tip you and give you some recipes, but thats too troublesome and time consuming, go here for all the good stuff:
http://ffxi.somepage.com/recipedb/ can also search by profession:
http://ffxi.somepage.com/recipedb/guild.php or for a nice extensive list:
http://mysterytour.web.infoseek.co.j...uild/guild.htm
Hope i could help!
And for future reference since we ask and answer alot of questions around here, consider the search funtion of our forums:
http://www.ffxionline.com/forums/search.php Double Post Edited:
TM beat me to the punch, and i pratically said the same he did XD...