My own husband blacklisted me -.- - Page 2 - Final Fantasy XI :: Dreams in Vana'diel :: Community

Feba · 05-26-2006, 12:10 AM

Maybe you missed the part where she wrote that he gets pissed whenever things don't go his way.

little ninja · 05-26-2006, 12:16 AM

honestly this is a simple sign of stress an depression. heres a guy an gal who are married and are half a world apart. right there that puts a hudge strain on any type of relationship. not to mention the simple pleasures some of us take for granted. he cant see his wife, an he cant be with his kids ( if there are any ). not to mention something work related triggered this out of him. some people just handle things alot differently, i tend to just walk away an give the silent treatment, my g/f tends to be cranky.

give it a day an see what happens. usually all it takes.

Feba · 05-26-2006, 12:22 AM

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-somewhat- happily married

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Although I am fairly confident he will get over it, there's no way in hell I will ever ask for his help, or even party with him in-game ever again.

I wouldn't just to a divorce because of one fight, but it sounds like this sort of thing is a regular occurance, or at least not too out there.

No kid wants their parents to be constantly fighting, and none of them in that situation enjoy it.

Aksannyi · 05-26-2006, 12:33 AM

Nah, -we- don't fight regularly, but he manages to tick off a lot of people in-game. This was the first time he ever got that pissed at me while we were playing, so I think he just needs to cool off or something.

And the -somewhat- was a joke, I guess I thought more people would catch that. No one is perfectly happily married, and all married people agree with that.

I'm not to worried about him, I'm sure he'll message me on MSN tomorrow and if not apologize, kind of somehow acknowledge that he was a jerk. Sometimes we step back from our actions and later realize we were wrong.

I just thought it was funny that my husband blisted me. Like he thinks that's going to get rid of me.

Feba · 05-26-2006, 12:36 AM

Well then, that's your thing to deal with, but remember, kids either take after their parents, or shoot off in their own (usually opposite) direction, so if they see him being an ass to everyone...

Sethe · 05-26-2006, 12:39 AM

Well, not knowing the full story about why he isn't living with you right now I can't really think of a reply.

All I can say is that - these things happen, sometimes people get in bad moods both in game and in real life.

Eohmer · 05-26-2006, 01:19 AM

Originally Posted by Feba

Maybe you missed the part where she wrote that he gets pissed whenever things don't go his way.

Yeah, true, but this is the first time that he BListed her... that's what I meant.

eticket109 · 05-26-2006, 02:22 AM

sorry but I lost any an all sympathy at the part where she told him 'F* you', got a system error, and made the decision to send it again.

seriously, if you're getting this fired up at each other over a game, then like others said, there is something more serious going on.

Balfree · 05-26-2006, 04:41 AM

yea, it wasnt nice of you to say that Aksannyi, both of you were pretty fired up there

and people, stop assuming stuff and telling her how to manage her life, i bet she doesnt enjoy it much, its not your place to judge

Kildem · 05-26-2006, 04:48 AM

Wait a stupid second....... your husband called you stupid ass, blacklisted you.............. and where is the love? Oh well... what a happy family...

Randwolf · 05-26-2006, 05:04 AM

If he is different in RL, I'd just let it go. Some people use the anonymous arena of the net and online games to be someone they would never be in real life. Others, are the same person both on and offline. As long as you both leave in-game stuff, in game, I'd not address it outside of the game. Have you thought about "accidentally" MPK'ing him?

Kildem · 05-26-2006, 05:07 AM

Lol being a different person online and offline is just freak! Mental people do it. And, honestly, if your own husband is so fugly ass to blacklist YOU, his wife, then he needs else a good divorce or a threat like "i will kill you while you sleep" or "i will cut your penis and boil it". Let him understand who is the house woman. Those damned men...

Aries Black · 05-26-2006, 05:22 AM

Originally Posted by Kildem

Lol being a different person online and offline is just freak! Mental people do it. And, honestly, if your own husband is so fugly ass to blacklist YOU, his wife, then he needs else a good divorce or a threat like "i will kill you while you sleep" or "i will cut your penis and boil it". Let him understand who is the house woman. Those damned men...

No it doesn't make you a freak. Being online gives you the security of being more comfortable with yourself. And generally people are more tolorant of what you are online then in real life.

Now for the Blisting. For a small trival thing like that, its a little bit over the top. You told him to calm down nicely and he jumps down your throat. =\

Darkhound · 05-26-2006, 06:05 AM

Sorry to hear that. Did you guys work things out? I never stops to amaze me how this game can be so much like RL. Therer is much emotions and things going on. I know some people that have had similar problems in the past. You seem like a very nice lady and I hope you sort this out!

DH

greydaze · 05-26-2006, 06:19 AM

1) Feba, you're what, 14? Please refrain from telling people to get divorces over things like this. -.-;;; You're probably too young to know the difficulties of RL relationships, so it's best if you hold your silence.

2) To the OP: My fiance BListed me once in-game. We never really exchanged profanities like you two, but if he got too steamed, he wouldn't answer my tells because he knew he'd end up blowing up at me. Best thing to do is to work it out IRL, because it doesn't look like a one-sided problem from here.