[Zamphire]

When I went in there, (the castle) the player who I had help from, decided to add me to their party and I accepted. They pulled the lever for the door, (dropping us both through the trap door) not me.
Do you think it's quite possible that I needed to activate getting the ring myself, thus I should be the one to pull the lever instead? Then I may have got the ring. Is that true? But then if I had been the one pulling the lever, then the other player wouldn't have got the ring and I would have got it instead. Is this true?
If this is the case, then maybe we shouldn't have partied up and taken turns to pull the (wrong) lever. would this still work?

Other than that, I may need to get LvL 4 fame, but is it just Windy I need it for, or do I need the same for Bastok and Sandy aswell, to be able to complete it?

You don't have to be the one to pull the lever.

When you fall down the hole you fall into a little room. In that room on the gound is a "???". Target the ??? and click on it to recive your old ring.